Hello dear friends from across the globe,

In the United States stand on the eve of a high-stakes, tight election. It’s natural to feel emotions running high. For many, this moment brings a sense of urgency, uncertainty, and even strain as we navigate a deeply divided time. This division can challenge our relationships and our sense of belonging, sometimes even driving wedges between cherished loved ones.

Tonight, let’s remember that regardless of outcome, our shared humanity remains. Practicing civility can help keep us grounded and connected during this challenging time. Here are a few reminders for tomorrow – and for the days, weeks and months to come:

Pause Before Responding: When conversations get tense, take a moment to breathe before replying. This pause helps us respond thoughtfully rather than reactively.
Set Boundaries with Respect: If certain topics are too charged, it’s okay to set limits. Let others know, respectfully, that you’d prefer to focus on other shared interests for now.
Stay Curious, Not Judgmental: Ask questions to understand rather than to challenge. Showing genuine curiosity about someone’s perspective can open dialogue without escalating tension.
Use “I” Statements: When sharing your views, focus on how you feel rather than making general statements. For example, say, “I feel concerned about…” instead of “People are so wrong about…”
Find Common Ground: Even in disagreements, there are usually areas where values overlap. Look for shared concerns or hopes as a foundation for conversation.
Practice Empathy: Imagine yourself in the other person’s position. Considering their experiences can soften your response and increase understanding.
Limit Social Media Consumption: Social platforms can amplify tension. Try limiting your scrolling or avoid reading comments where discussions often become polarized.
Show Kindness: Small acts, like a smile or kind word, can go a long way in reminding us all of our shared humanity, even during disagreements.
Keep things in perspective: No matter the result, our communities are stronger when we respect each other’s right to hold different views.

Let’s take care of ourselves and one another, holding onto what unites us rather than what divides us. We’re in this together.

Warmly,
Dr. Sally