But I Didn’t Say Goodbye -- Helping Families After a Suicide: Interview with Barbara Rubel | Episode 52

Overview

“Grief is love not wanting to let go.”

When children are grieving a death by suicide, they need the caring adults around them to help them find their way through Wordon’s tasks of mourning:

Task #1: Accept the Reality of the Loss

Task #2: Process the Pain of the Grief

Task #3: Adjust to a World without the Deceased

Task #4: Move on to an Enduring Connection While Embarking on a New Life

In this podcast, I interview Barbara Rubel, author of But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping Families After a Suicide. We walk through specific strategies families and other caring adults can use to support kids bereaved by suicide across many developmental ages.

About Barbara Rubel

Barbara Rubel

Three weeks prior to Barbara Rubel, MA, BCETS, DAAETS,  giving birth to triplets, her father died by suicide. Her story was featured in an Emmy award winning documentary,  Fatal Mistakes. Barbara is a sought-after keynote speaker who has dedicated her life work to supporting suicide loss survivors and educating professionals about suicide postvention and vicarious trauma. As an author and speaker, she brings a deep understanding of thanatology and personal resilience to her work. Her list of clients span more than 500 organizations. Barbara is a consultant with the U.S. Dept. of Justice, Office for Victims of Crime Training and Technical Assistance Center (OVCTTAC) and co-wrote its training curriculum,  Compassion Fatigue/Vicarious Trauma. She received a bachelor of science degree in psychology and a master of arts degree in community health, with a concentration in thanatology, both from Brooklyn College. She is a board-certified expert in traumatic stress, and a diplomate with the American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress.

Show Notes

Barbara Rubel’s Information

Grief, Storytelling and Rituals

  • Factors the Influence Grief: http://www.healthcare-information-guide.com/factors-that-influence-grief.html

  • Storytelling Course: “Am I Ready?”: https://unitesurvivors.org/online-education/

  • Rituals and Grief: http://sallyspencerthomas.blogspot.com/2011/04/on-power-of-ritual-to-make-meaning-for.html

Training Curriculum

  • Rubel, B. and McCown, A. (2014). Compassion Fatigue: Vicarious Trauma, (2nd ed.) U.S. Department of Justice, Office for Victims of Crime (OVCTTAC).

Book Chapters (Contributing Writer)

Postvention Resources

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